304′s in Church???
on Jul 15 in Blog, Writings by PhillWade(Below is a dialogue between a few guys. I felt compelled to share their perception of “some” women in church with you…Please share YOUR thoughts below…lol…DONT BLAME THE MESSENGER!!!)
Sunday morning, time to go to church! Who out there is going to go to church after a night of drunkenness and fornication?? HALLELUJAH!! Praise his name! Some friends and I were on our message board and the topic of faux piety with women came up. I thought I’d post it here cuz it had me cracking up.
Dante: I have a question for you gentlemen. Is it just me, or do you notice an obscene amount of single moderately attractive women, or “used to be’s” ( u kno, used to be cute until…) constantly quoting bible scriptures or believing in “His plan” more than the more attractive women in your facebook news feed?
Author: LMAO@Dante. Yes, the only time cute girls quote the bible is after a break up. That or they cut their hair off. I believe Lamont can speak to this as he has laid waste to young girls’ esteem like few others.
Lamont: Ouch, Ricky. LOL! But you are so right. These women are all the same. One minute they’re swallowing your love sauce like it’s the last drop of water in the middle of the dryest desert, then once they realize that the relationship will never go beyond this, they’re quoting scriptures, referencing “God’s plan”, and rambling on about how “my mother and father raised me to respect myself and to only be with a man that respects me. I’m not some whore you can keep tucked away like this! You don’t take me out, spend any money on me, and you haven’t picked up the phone to call me once since we started fucking! Go to hell, Lamont!” These B!#@%’s, man.
Franklin: I had a woman over last night who I met last week. About 20 minutes after she got here I asked her “so what do you like to do?” She replies that she loves Jesus and she enjoys praying to him and reading the scripture. The moment she said this I knew I had a freak on my hands. Roughly 3 hours later I was digging in her guts.
Moral of the story is: Only freaks invoke Jesus. A real good girl sees no reason to flaunt Christ but a woman who is weak, who can’t stand up to the heat wants to put Christ out as some force field. Man, the world is a ghetto.
Carlos: LMFAO!! Yall niggas are SAVAGES!! And,yes it is unfortunate that what Franklin B. says are some of the truest words spoken, it is the bucket-mouthed whore that is first to put out how pious she is, later to be uncovered for the flaming sword swallower that lies beneath. Christ is almost being used as a dare out here with these chicks. It saddens me and makes me laugh all at the same time; but it’s an uneasy laughter. I guess that’s the dynamic of being Christian in modern western society.
(I feel like Im back in high school…where I was the Valedictorian…lol…so I will provide you with a works cited page as well http://www.rickyontherocks.com/ricky-on-the-rocks/a-dialogue-about-hoes-in-church.html)
NOW!….This is Phill Wade speaking!…Lets get something straight right off the top…I am not saying that all women act like this. However, I do know of a handful of females that act this way and when a relationship does now go in their favor…they run to display EVERY DROP of their emotions along with every scripture that they know on to facebook and twitter!!!…Its like they are temporarily transformed by the renewing of their minds….I am sure that we are all guilty at some point of running to God and praying 24/7 when the -ish hits the fan, but sometimes our antics are just ridiculous…Now if this blog is talking about you…then you betta recognize that you have been RECOGNIZED because people are obviously writing about you and your business!!…But lets keep it real for a second. I always say that ANYBODY is capable of doing ANYTHING…In other words..there are some men out there who do the same thing to attract a certain type of women. Acting all HOLY AND SANCTIFIED to get a chic and then flip the script and go all Booty Talk 145,879 on her in the same setting….Truth be told, most of us are guilty of acting one way in church and another way out of it…That is what I call Bi-Polar Christians…Especially when it comes to the “lust of the eye”. WE FLIP. We loose our composure…and it is human. But, there has to come a point where we rectify the situation and right our wrongs. This reminds me of Romans 7:18 – 19
18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.
Im just gonna let that maaaaarrrrrrrrinate for a minute…(1 mississippi…2 mississippi..60!)…Im not preaching nor am I being judgmental but, I have taken note on how unfortunate it is that women get labeled as hoes before a man will because of their “Actions”. Having said that, If you dont want to be labeled as something then keep your business tight (which seems to be impossible when the draws are involved) ….or STOP DOING IT! If I didn’t want to be labeled as being alive then I just stop BREATHING!…But I wanna live yall…cause I like it a LOT!…lets cut this off right here because I believe that by now most of you get the point… So now that you know better….Do Better…
#FLEXontheDEVIL
Let me know what you think and leave a comment or hit me on Twitter @MrPhillWade
*Drops Mic and walk off stage… You definitely just said something. If you do it don’t conceal it and stop acting… Take the masks off please.
It all comes down to authenticity, self-respect, self-worth, and maturity. It’s amazing how much of a difference being authentic makes (not just “keepin it real”). If you respect yourself and know your worth, you won’t settle for less than the best.
One word — wow. But the scenario is so true. I know many like that unfortunately. I had the same thing happen to me. But it was the Guy who tried to impress me Scripture and verse. Expose them for who and what they are. Lesson learned.
I have read this over and over and each time my thoughts are different! It’s so true what it being said. What other GOOD reason is there to flaunt Jesus? People will notice that you love the Lord without you having to say anything, if they’re around you long enough! If women will say (as in Lamont’s section) that their parents taught them to respect themselves AFTER they let this guy sex the hell out of them and they realize that’s all he wanted……..theeen…I don’t think they listened to their parents. I mean come on! If they respected themselves, they wouldn’t have opened their legs before knowing if this man wants more than just their goods! If you’re going to open you’re legs after a week of knowing the guy then how do you expect him to respect you?…and want to be with you for who you are? HE DOESN’T EVEN KNOW YOU! Women shouldn’t pretend to be who they’re not. If you’re a bad b!#*/ then don’t try to be holier than thou! You give the real, good, christian women a bad name!
I mean dude what can I say…I mean you hit right on the nail…
the big thing is this…Dante said the chicks that USE TO BE attractive…oooohhh brotha…not that I”m saying I’m Denzel, but all too often our BEAUTIFUL sistas are giving their bodies to thugs, playa, dudes who mean them no good…NOT goin in on your friends, but these cats too in this blog…and give THEIR BEST YEARS, talents, love, etc and then when they do come to church, or get saved, or get right…they are no more good…
Don’t get me worng, you are NEW creature when you get saved, but let’s be real too. The brotha who’s in church is STILL A MAN..he want’s a halfway decent woman to look at too and too often the reformed , sanctified woman, is just not attractive anymore. because of multiple babies, hard living, hard partying..too many tats, piercings, blunt lips, …or they are so scared from previous relationships that it’s like tooth and nails trying to be with them…I mean..How you use to be a freak with “tre” and “Dawg”, but you won’t give “Brother Larry” a hug or a kiss on the cheek???….Like seriously…you gave your BEST to them dudes, but you are not even meeting me half way on things…
Sorry for the rant, but that first dude Dante said a whole lot there…so my sisters..stop giving your best to those dudes and find you A MAN who you are worthy of and who’s worthy of you.
Agape…Larry
I just wanted to say…”I love everything you just said!!!!”
This. YES. AMAND. Lol. For real, that’s aggravating. You blow EVERYBODY under the sun, act a total whore, cook, clean, and be the perfect woman for some dudes that don’t give a crap about you, and when you get saved and married, now you want to be stingy, mean, bitter, and “reformed” with your husband! What the…you just gave your best years and “talents” (let’s be real…some of that stuff is just a blessing you won’t find just anywhere…) to some old dudes that really don’t give a crap about you anyway, and the GOOD man has to pay the price? Couldn’t be me, bro. If you gave the good to ya old good-for-nothing exes, you better give me better. As a good man–moreover a good husband–I doggone well deserve it.
I like, I like AND I like everything you said Brother Larry!!!! #cosign
Larry, you are the man. Amen!
Well being that I am older…I come from a era when it was demanded that a young lady behaved as a young lady. We didn’t run the streets doing any and everything we were big enough to do.I didn’t used God’s word as a tool to get or keep a man nor did I use it as a way to excuse bad behavior. I have children your age and the one thing I have said is there is no relationship greater that your bond with God… For my daughter…….. I have said never settle for the smooth lines men will tell you. You are a Queen and you must trust that God will send you your King. I have told my son…the Bible tells me that it is he (The Man) that must findeth his wife..Don’t treat women like nothing .Treat them how you want a man to treat your sisters.
I guess what this old lady is saying ….It is important to respect women. You were born from a woman and raised by women it is really upsetting when I hear you speak of any young women in such a disrespectful manner. Especially, when they are only doing the same things that you are doing!!!!
You are all bright and shining young men…. Phil, I enjoy your videos nad I think you have the best intentions… Keep on doing Good and I will continue to pray for continued Strength. And if you want Quality stop operating in quantity!!!
Upsetting??…Did you read the whole blog…I looked at it from “Every” perspective…None the less….I respect your opinion. Thank you for your thoughts.
I have to agree with Pamela when it comes to the degrading way you and your friends addressed women. Although I see and understand where u are coming from, this obviously wasn’t a message meant to be preached from the pulpit. I see the truth in what you are saying but I also believe that as a Christian, man or woman, to be a witness for Christ in not just the way you carry yourself, but also in what comes out of your mouth which happens to translate into FB and Twitter. It is a tactic of the devil to only see flaws in a person when they begin to speak about the word of God. As a Christian it is not my job to evaluate your life to see if u are living right. That is between you and God but what I will do is speak truth where I see it lacking when it comes to the God I serve. So what if these girls are doing what they do. If they have asked God for forgiveness who are you to continue to judge them? That is also a tactic of the devil to use people to hang the past over someone’s head. So the next time you open your mouth to speak negatively about a person and the things they have done in the past, you need to take into consideration who you are working for.
Read the blog again from top to bottom….Especially the part when I said “This is PHILL WADE” speaking….PLEASE…I do not know these gentlemen…NOR did I mention that I agree with everything they said…Its seems as if you were thinking about how you were going to reply before you were finished reading the blog. I apologize if I have mistakenly offended you or any other lady but my response at the bottom of the blog approached both men, women, sinners, Christians…EVERYBODY….
“However, I do know of a handful of females that act this way and when a relationship does now go in their favor…they run to display EVERY DROP of their emotions along with every scripture that they know on to facebook and twitter!!!…Its like they are temporarily transformed by the renewing of their minds….I am sure that we are all guilty at some point of running to God and praying 24/7 when the -ish hits the fan, but sometimes our antics are just ridiculous…Now if this blog is talking about you…then you betta recognize that you have been RECOGNIZED because people are obviously writing about you and your business!!”
That sounds like co-sign to me, excuse me if I’m wrong.
OK..and there is a lot of truth to that…its pure fact…keep reading…”But lets keep it real for a second. I always say that ANYBODY is capable of doing ANYTHING…In other words..there are some men out there who do the same thing to attract a certain type of women. Acting all HOLY AND SANCTIFIED to get a chic and then flip the script and go all Booty Talk 145,879 on her in the same setting….Truth be told, most of us are guilty of acting one way in church and another way out of it…That is what I call Bi-Polar Christians…Especially when it comes to the “lust of the eye”. WE FLIP. We loose our composure…and it is human. But, there has to come a point where we rectify the situation and right our wrongs. This reminds me of Romans 7:18 – 19
18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.”
That is not pure fact. I have to disagree with you on that. The way you wrote that is not from a factual standpoint but from a judgmental standpoint and speaking negatively about them and they way they decide to deal with they situations in their lives.
Ma’am this is not an opinion…. It becomes fact when “I have numerous female friends who have done it” …
I like that Bi-Polar Christians… lol to funny, but oh so true. I can say that I’m a Christian, love going to church but I know and many others out there know that they’re not acting “CHRISTIANFIED” 24/7 LETS JUST BE REAL. I would never use church as way to wheel a man in but I do know women and men out there who will or have done and then go left on them once they get what they want!!! I know a chic who pretended to be a GODS GOOD WOMEN and married a Pastor. Now she knew she wasn’t being real Hell myself and others knew she was a PERPETRATOR, but she wheeled that poor ol pastor in and became the first lady at the CHURCH. 3 months later her and the deacon of the church were having private BIBLE STUDIES!!!! lol Some people will get offended or misconstrue what you’re saying but who cares, everyone has their on opinion. But anywho like the blog Keep up the good work…
I agree with Pamela, “because the relationship doesn’t go the way she wanted it to go” was she lead to believe the relationship would go somewhere like a lot of men do? Most likely so because if she was told, ‘girl you aint nothin but a hoe I wanna fuck,’ and he had been HONEST, she probably wouldn’t be in that situation. But men love to lead women on and then blame them for buying it. It’s a shame to see that men think of women this way for wanting a relationship with them, and they look at her like trash simply because they did what they both wanted to do. These men are very immature. Like I said before they probably made the woman think the relationship was going somewhere just to get her into bed and now because she gave him what he wanted everything has changed. It’s pathetic and I hope you all grow up. And let me just say this doesn’t apply to me because I’m waiting until I get married to have sex and I don’t go around quoting bible verses when a man does something I don’t like. But I have had these same type of men come into my life and treat me a certain way to get into my panties and then toss me to the side when they see I’m not going to have sex with them. So what does that say about these men? They’re immature, and they need to grow up and start reading the bible with these women, and get with some of them and decide to treat her like something. These are probably good women that just so happen to like sex as much as they do. But God forbid a woman like to have sex. They don’t deserve this fantasy woman they have in their minds. Especially when they’ve been out in the streets whoring around as well.
Well, now you have a representative from the good men. Young, Christian, hardworking man with a wife and two children, all of whom have no doubt of anything I profess to be, nor any doubt or lack of evidence that I love them. The reality is, there were plenty of females playing the very game he said. I ran into plenty myself, and I WASN’T going for the draws. Remained a virgin for my wife. Didn’t change the attitude of many of the females around me. There were too many who claimed Christianity, and in the same day, went hunting for a piece of meat to lay with. Didn’t look/sound like rape or deception to me. What you portray is that all women are generally fooled into this kind of behavior, which I have personally witnessed is NOT the case. Beyond that, it is EACH INDIVIDUAL’S decision what to do with him/herself. Nobody MADE you lay in the bed with them. If you slept with them, YOU slept with them. You made a conscious decision without analyzing all the facts. If said brother claimed Christianity, he shouldn’t have been trying to smash. Likewise, sister, if you claimed Christianity, NEITHER SHOULD YOU HAVE ACCEPTED. Many times, females have come on to me, but that didn’t make me mess with them. To this day, my wife is the only woman I have slept with, and she is the only woman I plan on sleeping with. If I cheat on her, doesn’t matter who did what prior to me cheating. Some female could grab my junk and go to town, and I still have an option to say no. If I don’t, I made the conscious decision to live in the moment. So, in a nutshell, in case this post lost anybody: EVERYONE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN ACTIONS. BE A MAN/WOMAN ABOUT IT AND TAKE THE BLAME FOR WHAT YOU DID. STOP TRYING TO BLAME SOMEONE ELSE.
I mean…anytime you start putting God, church, hoe, sex, all in the same post–folks are bound to get ‘testy.’ and “the bucket-mouthed whore” prob put a few folks on edge..yikes… :-/
The message of the post can get lost, as you know, b/c folks are looking at the words rather than the content. But I understand what you’re saying.
Yes I believe there are 304s in church, however this goes for the women as well as the men. But the blog is addressing women at the moment…I believe the problem is that most people who claim to be Christians, go to church every Sunday, quote scriptures, etc don’t actually live the lifestyle continuously. Yes, people have times where the slip and fall as humans, thank God for grace, but where is the moment when u realize a trend of giving your body to man to man and vice versa. If you are going to quote the word then u should live it. Meaning if you meet someone new, it’s perfectly fine to let them know up front what you are about, that way if you are on the same page go forward. As believers there is a spirit of discernment and most of us women can tell if a man is only about one thing at some point in that relationship, or whatever. The game changer is if u strong in your beliefs you hold your ground or keep it moving; being weak that’s when u succumb. I had a thought for the men after reading the blog: If you are a believer as well, do you hold the woman to her standards with your own, or go with the flesh then leave her alone and label her a 304? Nice blog, and great to read the views of men on issues. Good job!
A woman is going to continue to sleep around until she gets free from the lustful spirit that is causing her to do it…whenever you desire to do good evil is ALWAYS present. There are 304′s every where, not just in the church. Everybody has a vice; we wrestle not against flesh and blood but power and principalities. The way I see it these young men that are talking are just as guilty as the females. The only difference is that the females in the church are gaining knowledge to know what to do and have a desire to live right and the men running their mouths just want a landfill and a quick nut. Seems to me like everybody needs to get right and shut up.
Well that’s why I said it goes both ways if both parties are claiming to be Christian, and generalized people who claim to do so have victory over the situation. Now separating from that and speaking as a woman and with relationship experiences who believe in letting a man know where you stand spiritually, I should be strong and stand on that, if I fail at that then I was weak and fell prey to the “lustful spirit” as you mentioned. So, yes we have them in church as the blog questioned and I left a question for men as I read. I believe both parties should be held responsible, if both claim they’re Christians. If a woman/man meets someone who is not on their spiritual level, or one they’re strive for then they shouldn’t mess with them. We are all human, and have fallen short, but again thank God for his grace, we should all learn from our errors and strive to get victory over it, if you keep failing you gotta do something different. If we seeking God in that area then we shouldn’t expect to find this person in clubs and such places. Again u have those who will be in church but not living the lifestyle and for those trying u gotta be aware of that and that’s the problem I see with it, I think this was for those who are not actually living Christian lifestyle but just being a professing Christian and the actions don’t line up. Now with women being called out I think goes back to it being a stigma in society.
well said Danielle
I found this very interesting….EVERYONE falls short…Paul spoke of the struggle between spirit and flesh…he asked God…how can I serve you and do all the things in your name when I have this thorn (sin and flesh) in my side…God told Paul that his Grace was sufficient enough for him to use him inspite of his flaws…people may mess up because they give into fleshly desires but please believe that if they continue to seek God and ask for help they will be free…better to be in the church and convicted in your spirit when u mess up than to be in the world head first and unknowing…the bible states that when Jesus died for our sins he justified us…we no longer have to defend ourselves because his blood speaks out on our behalf…this is why we have forgiveness and life eternal…I think these young men need to remember that there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus and get themselves together and stop worrying about other people…in the end u will be judged for what u do and u alone…nobody else
The bible also states that God is married to the back slider…meaning when you take a step forward and then go back in the wrong direction he is always there. That is why young women may speak about how much they love the Lord and are in church even thought they may be engaging in sin. What one must realize is that once you accept Christ, he is always there. He never leaves and will make his presence known regardless of what you are doing.
Ok, I am a female but I have to say that I agree with some of what these guys are saying. I know that people, particularly women are going to be upset because of the verbage used to describe women but we have to look at logic and the bigger picture. What these guys are trying to highlight is the hypocrisy that these women display when they say that they love the Lord but will instantly lose that religion when the new Nicki Minaj song comes on. If you are a tried and proven Christian the one thing that you will NEVER have to do is flaunt it. The light of God is something that us reflected in your aura, and if you really live your life for Him then people will be able to tell the minute they meet you. Who these guys are referring to are the fairweather Christians, or people who only are true believers when the weather o’s not fairing in their favor. Men and women who will use thier slight and sometimes extensive knowledge of the Bible as a pawn in their search for a potential mate. And honestly, it’s 2011 and I really want women to stop pulling the “he led me on and I was an unsuspecting party” card. I’m not saying that this still does not happen in some situations, but I think when people pull that card they are trying to shift blame and to me make it seem that women don’t think for themselves. In the majority of these situations both parties are consenting and even in some cases the female is more willing than the man. And honestly when have you ever heard a man say ” you know if we sleep together we are gonna be together?” Never, but it’s what some believe they have to do in order to even have a man. Which leads to the bigger social issue; self esteem, or really the lack thereof. I don’t and have never agreed with the notion that with on twist of a word a man can ruin a woman’s reputation, but I also have to admit that there are instances in which the words fit because of the activities that person engages in and with who they engage in said activities with. What they are saying is that you should just be honest about who you are and what you do. Don’t try to use the Bible and God as a buffer.
I agree that this blog was to bring attention to those who are not fully committing to live for Christ. Yes the guys were just as guilty, but in society women will get the bad rep over a man. I don’t think this was for those women who may have been in serious relationships or something similar and just let flesh win, but those who quote scripture then as soon as they meet a guy they sleep with him. It should go both ways, but we all know it doesn’t.
It’s a shame that I have to agree with you guys. I’ve seen & heard it all in my own life. The fact is that both people are wrong. The woman is wrong because she’s wants to be promiscuous & Praise Em in the same breath… Not poppn shawty! Being a Christian is who are… It’s your language it’s your lifestyle. Having to say you know God is like talking about the quarterback in high school… You know OF him you don’t KNOW him. Because those kind of females I have to hear “you must be a freak” in response to “we can’t go out tonight I have service but you can come with me”. Then the relationship ends because I’m not the average Christian squirting at night & throwing holy oil by day. I paid too much in pathmark on that oil to waste it on you & Jesus paid too much for me to waste my virginity on just anyone. The guy is wrong for playing on her weakness… Ok it’s human nature but the bible explains that following your sinful (human) nature leads to death & nowadays that doesnt only mean death in the spirit but death in the natural (after disease & pain & child birth & heartache kicks in). All in all everyone needs to be mindful of what they’re doing & who they’re doing it with. (Sis. Watermelon wasn’t “saved” always… & just because she is doesn’t mean she’s been delivered). Best way to avoid this.. Stop giving eachother the business… Start doing Gods business & the one He has for you will find you.
I agree 100%! if you don’t wanna be labeled as a whore then stop acting like one ! U can’t be all lil Kim how many licks does it take to get to the center one moment then you step foot on church and you holier than thou ?!)! God should be talked to all the time and not when it is convient for you
Wow!! Ppl are really going hard on this one huh, lol. Well first let me say that I am a Christian, but I don’t go around broadcasting it. Your lifestyle will speak for itself. That’s not to say I am not a witness for Christ because I am. Anyways, I didn’t take offense to what the gentlemen were saying. They spoke the truth about “some” women who say they are Christians. Now these women have allowed themselves to settle for less or for a little pleasure for the moment instead of waiting for who God had joined them with. A man is going to do only what you allow him to do. So if this men have had several women who are in the church do this then what are they gonna think. We already get labeled as being the biggest freaks. (which I see nothing wrong with, as long as it’s your husband, the bed is undefiled u know, lol). So as long as there are women out there like that then are gonna think that. I think Phil just exposed what some are afraid to talk about. It lies deeper than just sex. These women seek attention and love of a man but not in the way God intended. I agree with Danielle God gives discernment and once you’ve had an encounter with dudes like those above you know what to look out for. Some ppl took it out of context and it wasn’t Phil that said those things he just presented it to us. There are those of us out there who don’t act holier than thou or so heavenly bound until we’re no earthly good. You just gotta find her like the word says ” a man that finds a wife finds a good thing”. And trust if you ask God to let her have a little excitement in the bedroom I’m sure He will grant that request. He does know that sex between two ppl in covenant is important or He wouldn’t have made ot so enjoyable lol. I just say that we don’t be so judgmental and closed minded to put everybody in the same box. God Bless.
Now this had me rolling. Not JUST because it’s funny. But because it’s true. I’m a Christian man. Not by my projecting it(saying it) but my day to day action. And i’ve run across these type of women. It’s sad because the same women who do such things are the ones who bypass (or pass up) a good man after GOD’s heart for a brother who “playing church”. And sad to say, but there are more in the church in position “playing church” than the non believers (when in fact, they have MORE faith in Jesus than some believers)
Dr Phil——————–Ladies!!! Listen to the Man————————-
Thank You for saying that NOT ALL women live in that level of fakeness as the blog was about. I appreciate you Mr. Wade.
Good read, but I am amazed by the backlash of some people! If this blog offends you, then maybe it is you that its wrote for?
Being triflin will reveal itself in its own time. People don’t realize that you’ve got to renew yourself daily. It is a battlefield out there…lust, greed..all types of temptation. I hear similar stories, but the women I choose to hang with from church are women who are married and honestly live IN THE WORD.
Everything is a choice. It’s your choice to sleep around and keep quoting the scriptures or it’s your choice not to do it (for example).
I for one, do not mind talking about Jesus. I don’t have to say anything about loving the Lord because I believe people will know that I truly do and be attracted to the Christ in me by the way I carry myself, treat others, and love my 2 children.
I also believe having sex and not being married causes a lot of these problems that deal with emotion, drama, and feeling used. Well, of course you’re being used (sexually) when he (or she) didn’t put a ring on it or put it on paper!
I just thank the Lord for helping me to stay focused and true to His word. I’m no longer with the father of my kids (was married to him) and I’ve been celibate for more than 4 years now. It’s really not a tough thing to do when you CHOOSE not to put yourself in situations that will tempt you.
Sin is sin and the sin of fornication and adultery can be strong if you let it and do not ask for strength to fight it from God. As for me, I choose to not be a girlfriend who gives a boyfriend wife privileges!
People will know whether you are a Christian or not…whether you say it or not. They can tell by the “fruits” you bear!
this is nothing but the TRUTH Phil. It’s sad and very unfortunate, but that’s the world we live in. Ladies and Gentlemen, if you keep it real with yourselves, keep it real with others.If you’re a freak, you’re a freak. Plain and simple. No need to drag Jesus into your sinfulness to justify the situation.
wade telling the truth but some of the home boys are trifflin. if i was to take christianity out of it and just talk about being a morally sound individual who cares about themselves and the well being of others. i would say that just cause you have sex with a man doesnt mean you desire to be treated like meat. the girl in one of the guys comments was complaining about not getting calls, or dates, or getting taken care of outside the bed room. evidently she wants more than just to suck or fuck. she wanted some form of dating or relationship accompanied with her actions. you can say you love Jesus and still say in the same breath that your not living by the bible. if you discuss with each other with truth what you want every one should be cool and not stereotypes should be hanging over anyone’s head. but as far as the bible is concerned yea its said people use it as bait both men and women. done !
LMAO! THIS IS SAD BECAUSE NIGGAZ DO IT TOO….
NIGGAZ CALLING US HOES BUT THEY FUCKING THEM THO….
WE ALL SIN ITS LIFE AINT NOBODY BETTER THAN THE OTHER
Thought I would comment and say neat theme, did you make it for yourself? It’s really awesome!
I do understand where the men are coming from. However,as believers in Jesus Christ (which I’m assuming you are because of the scripture references)neither party should be having sex outside of marriage (yes I realize this seldom happens), but women could not have sex with or provide oral sex to a man who is not willing to receive it. Men are called to be the leaders so if you would like to see less fake piety amongst women in the church how about turning her down (even though she’s throwing it at you) and leading her ,as men are called to do, in truly living the Christian life. Is that easier said than done? YES! Impossible. NO for with God nothing is impossible. My intention is not to excuse women for the part we play, but to more thoroughly express my opinion about the part that men play. Our role was definitely discussed by Carlos, Franklin, Phill, Dante and Lamont.
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