I Know Why You Are Singleon Jul 18 in Blog, Writings by PhillWade
“I Know Why You Are Single A.K.A. “THE NEVERENDING PYRAMID OF FAILURE”
This blog is catered to the people out there that think they have it all together when it comes to relationships yet they have one screw that is not quite tight enough (or not there at all). They find themselves on a spiraling staircase that never ends. …They constantly find themselves dating and dating and dating in an effort to find Mr or Mrs RIGHT…and somehow end up alone only to start the whole process over again with an un-perfect match. If this just so happens to be you…you dont have to tell anybody…we’ll just keep this between you and lil ole me (wink!). A significant attribute to many people being alone is that they constantly sew efforts into perusing someone on ‘ANOTHER LEVEL‘ who ALSO is persuing someone else on ‘ANOTHER LEVEL‘
ANOTHER LEVEL – In most cases, this means that people are going after a male or female with superficial motives whether it be based off of beauty, money or status. Also known as “A Good Look” (Dang Phill is that you???…Shes a Good Look) OR a “Trophy”
Here is the perfect scenario where some of the most of the superficial human beings congregate….THE CLUB!!!!!!!
So you get dressed in clothes that you could or couldnt afford…fresh to death…or as beautiful as you wanna be and proceed to go out with your friends. Unless it is that type of environment, your intentions are NOT to go there to have a dance battle!!!…lol…Its to impress the opposite sex, be complimented on your looks and/or find someone that can provide you with some type of “pleasure”. I will develop this setting from a mans perspective (in Houston)…So, I get to the club and I see a young lady looking as beautiful as an “early autumn pomegranate wine”…(NA THAS FINE!!!)…but shes not paying me any attention because shes looking at the hood rich Slim Thug…Slim Thugga is not even half way paying her any attention because his attention is on former Destinys Child member and international songstress Latoya Luckett… Latoya however, is not paying him any attention because she is looking at Football Phenom Reggie Bush, Reggie is not paying Latoya any attention because his sights are set on Kim Kardashian…and we all know how that ended up…(and so on and so forth) This is what we call a PYRAMID…
PYRAMID: as each person looks up a level, the amount of people in each level are fewer fewer lessening your chances of success.
And thats is EXACTLY why I dont like talking to girls in the club. Everybody just seems SO FAKE to me…You have NO IDEA who the person is that youve been wasting your breath on or have been wasting your money on or have been wasting your gas on to take home to have pointless”relations” with…IM TOO GROWN FOR THAT…Im twenty somethin years old and I WANT MORE SUSTENANCE….I mean, shouldnt we all crave that at some point in our lives??? Ok before I get too personal…LET US CONTINUE…Here are some point that I would like to present…
When searching for your next interest, Look over not Up! Your perfect chick/guy could be sitting right next to you in math class, church, or in your neighboring cubicle at work and he/she’s been overlooked BY YOU all this time because they dont look like the video vixen or famous movie guy you saw in the club last night. Ladies, your perfect man is probaly not that rapper you want, but his HYPEMAN or Morehouse grad who is in charge of his public relations instead…(shrug…and im prolly right).
If we can attempt to persue someone that compliments us vs. Constantly searching for the next bigger and better thing, we will find someone that will be genuine, appreciative, etc. towards us...So ladies and gentlemen…Is that list that you have in your head or in your Hello Kitty journal filled with superficial things or with attributes that are priceless??? (You better not be a man with a Hello Kitty NOTHIN!!!)
Looks/status only get your foot in the door. It takes more than that to maintain a healthy relationship. (And you wonder why higher level people are ‘empty’ anyways)….Just why are most of them by themselves and why do they get in relationships that fail instantaneously. Is it because nothing is GENUINE??…Does everything feel fabricated???..possibly…Many celebs have been known to admit that they have everything they want without anything they need…IS THIS WHAT YOU ARE AIMING FOR WHEN YOU STEP OUT THE HOUSE IN YOUR RED BOTTOMS OR LV APPAREL???
Ladies…are you passing up guys who aren’t built muscle heads with tatts or making alot money…even though they could be ‘the one’??…Now I AM NOT telling you to find the dorkiest dude in the room, make him your man and pray that he is your knight in shinning armor…He may just be another fool wrapped in foil paper conducting a Bill Nye the Science Guy experiment …(lol)..I am just telli…no..I am asking you to be more aware of your surroundings….Erykah may have made Tyrone the man he needs to be FOR YOU….think about that…
Fellas…are you passing up girls because they don’t have long real hair or aren’t a size 2 or bright skin???…GROW UP and recognize that you could be passing up love just because it’s not wrapped the way you want it….what resides in that beautiful woman who has decided to “go natural” or the woman who didnt feel like flat ironing her hair because it takes 3 and a half hours could be the woman that can compliment your life in E-VER-Y stride that you take.
If everyone would make an effort to stop climbing this pyramid of potential love and superficiality, satisfaction would be more prevalent than ever!
Ill end with this “You’ll find perfection once you stop looking for it…”
(Shout out to GG & LaDaria)
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